How Do You Know That She’s the One?

There are so many choices that can determine the trajectory of your life. Some are big choices (should I move out of state), and some are some choice (should I accept this Facebook friend request). The thing about life is that each choice we make (or don’t make) will create the situations and circumstances in the future. As a man, one of the most important choices you can make is choosing your future wife but how do you know that she’s the one? 

Fellas, I get it. Being with one woman for the rest of your life is not an easy transition for everyone. Going from having fun with whoever, whenever you want to be with one person is an adjustment. The thing to remember is that life is a result of the choices you make. Will unexpected things happen to us from time to time, yes, but for the most part we are in control of our outcome. For example, if we choose not to eat right or exercise, we cannot blame life for being overweight. If we choose to be involved with multiple women, there is a consequence for this. With all that said, if you have a good woman in your life now’s the time to explore if she’s the one. Here are a few things to consider. 


In my honest opinion communication is one of the most important things in a relationship. Being able to properly communicate with someone is key for growth in the relationship. So before you drop down on one knee, communicate with her. Find out what her goals are for the relationship, for a family, for finances, and for life in general. There is no need in wasting her time if your goals don’t align. Especially if these goals are serious goals. As Men, we should never try to change a Woman’s mind about what she wants in life. We have to be able to support her and if you are not willing to be there for her, don’t waste her time. With the right communication, you both can be on the page and have goals that you both can achieve individually and together. It all starts communication. 


Without trust, there will be problems in the relationship. If you are in your early 30’s like me, you understand the importance of trust. It’s something that must be earned, but with one mistake you can lose it. This goes back to choices. You can have an amazing relationship but with one wrong choice, it can change your life. Telling a woman that she can trust you is okay but showing a woman that she can trust far more important. In the words of my mentor Richard 
Flint “Behavior Never Lies”. We must display the behavior that we can be trusted. Not only that, but we must also be able to trust our woman. If you can’t trust her and she can’t you, y’all both wasting y’all time.


The most powerful 4 letter word in a relationship. Love is an emotion unlike no other. It’s something that you can both feel and do. You can feel love based off the vibrations you get from an individual. That’s why some people say “you make me feel some type of way”. While at the same time, love will make you do things to express how you feel about someone. There is no such thing as a perfect relationship. I work on my relationship every day because I want to let the woman that I love to know that we are in this together. We are a team. There will disagreements, but we will properly communicate with each other on how we can resolve the disagreement together. Also, it’s important to not throw the word love around too freely. In fact, some people confuse the word “Love” for the word “Lust”. Lust is temporary but Love is real and it can last as long as you are willing to work on it. 

Hopefully, this answers the question of “How do you know if she’s the one”. If you both have great communication, you both trust each other and there is real love between you both, she may be the one. Now if she is the one, don’t wait too long. Let that woman know how serious you are about your relationship. Many things come and go in life, but when you have “the One” don’t lose her. A woman like her comes once in a lifetime.